Someone was asking this, for a friend. It seems a good question!
I'm attracted/not, nearly instantly.
I don't dive all the way into the pool quite as quick, though.
You?
Yes, instant something -- attraction, chemistry, vague familiarity. Followed by curiosity with intense observation. Then banter establishing a dynamic. The heart-pounding adrenaline rush. The beginning of a cat and mouse game. Ah, those were the days!
The clincher that always sealed the deal was a momentary glimpse of vulnerability in an otherwise dynamic exterior -- the lion with a thorn in his paw. But even before I became a covid hermit, the lions appeared to have gone extinct, or at best declawed by too many years in captivity!
@warped I met a great old man, yesterday. All man, and alone. Gardens for others, like I do. Strained, cooking for one. Good looking dude. Tall and slim. Marlboro man looking.
I'm on my way! 🙃
I'm sure they exist here too. If I'd really been looking for one when I first moved here, perhaps I'd have gotten a job at a feed store or such to be "where the (old) boys are." But I was too focused on doing up my house, doing up a Will, managing finances and dental work and so many other pop up distractions, and I really wasn't motivated. At all.
Life is simpler without that emotional rollercoaster.
Slowly. It’s my Capricorn and Taurus. Love sneaks up on me. Attraction is quick though.