Vivid said

Elsa said
https://elsaelsa.com/astrology/what-is-the-difference-between-synastry-chart-and-a-composite-chart/

 

Thank you, Elsa  

that link really opens my eyes, too. I didnt realize that one's Jupiter makes the other person's personal planets benevolent and both exchange of energy is wonderful; and that mars square sun can "attack". I know in real life my Capricorn Sun mother in law's Aquarius Jupiter gets on very well with Libra venus, Libra Sun relatives that have Scorpio mars and moon, but she has a hard time with other Libra sun relatives (especially with scorpio venus, aries mars -- cap and aries square and aqua and scorpio square - double whammy) I wonder if it's the square from her moon too and her mars. My husband's Jupiter opposes my one personal planet/also trines/ majority of the them are not compatible ( ETA: for example majority of my earth are not compatible with his fire) so maybe the composite changes all that too, and why is it effortless. (and maybe the houses)

@Vivid, yeah one square doesn't have much notice; it's effortless when there's lots of harmonious compatible trines/sextiles, but too many can be too much.

Let's see, my sister has opposite sun with her husband, but his venus and mercury trine her earthy moon, and his mars trines her mars and mercury, and 7th house conjuncts his sun. I feel that house is the "hidden" and "secret" compatibility too i notice.

ETA2: makes me also think of the compatibility of Rhea Perlman and Danny Devito (long term marriage) she's Aries sun with Capricorn moon/TAUrus venus (so pretty earthy) and he's Scorpio sun with Sagittarius moon (there's some secret stuff compatibility going on there) lol  (eta3 Oh he is an 11th house sun) and they don't have her rising so houses maybe different.  anyway this topic is interesting.

Oh, here is something  else.... what if there is no aspect between Mars and Venus, neither man's or women's in synastry? Problem? Uncompatitbility? The attraction doesn't last? Is this the case?

(P.p. but in the composite is trine between Mars and Venus, 2orbs.)