This is for the people who feel they carry the shadow for the collective. I know I am one of them and I wonder if any of you have ever confronted anyone who constantly dumps on you. “If it wasn’t for you, Elsa…”
I have.
Listening carefully to the 800th complaint about my personality lodged over a half dozen years. And feeling the complaints were unwarranted. I cocked my head slightly and said, “Say. Have you ever thought of how your life would be if I died? What if tomorrow my life ended and that was that. I was gone. Do you think your life would be better? Because I don’t think it would. In fact, I think it would be much worse. Strange, huh? If I wasn’t here, I think you’d feel even worse then you do right now…”
Complaints lessened after that.
Anyone else ever try something?
Ha ha ha! Matthew – you’re right! ::snorts:: But jeez man. I’m not the one causing all the problems. See, dead or alive, it’s my fault so you know that means?
::erase::
There. Now there is a hologram here, nothing more. I was just a figment anyway. What people don’t realize is I would happily die if it would help them. However it won’t help them.
I am the person it would help! I have an almost constant yearning to escape and I guarantee you it will be a happy day for Elsa, the day I leave this plane.
Do they bug you in the afterlife too? God I hope not!
“Say. Have you ever thought of how your life would be if I died? You know. What if tomorrow my life ended and that was that. I was gone. Do you think your life would be better? Because I don’t think it would. In fact, I think it would be much worse. Strange, huh? If I wasn’t here, I think you’d feel even worse then you do right now…”
That’s what I love about Libras. They’re smart enough to borrow a ploy from even Cancer, if it works. 🙂
I am my mothers cross bearer, her personal Pluto or something.
Sample quotes:
“You, you are killing me.”
“Everyone says I am looking 20 years older because of you.”
“What if I die because of you huh? You will carry me on your soul forever.”
I have only recently realized that this is a total projection: I am a straight A student. never got into trouble, never was a hell raiser.
Thank god I can see how things really are.
yikes.
OOh btw, Elsa, I took your advice to heart(about living on my own and making(Saturn) my own home (4th house)and now I live away from my family and sharing a house with two roommates.
Multo obrigado,
🙂
I have been thinking this shadow thing over ever since you brought it up. with all the Scorpio/Pluto influence in my chart, I guess being a shadow person was so much a part of who I was I didn’t even notice it any more, if that makes sense. Interestingly enough, having undergone a couple of major milestones, Chiron Return & Second Saturn Return, that effect seems to have worn off! So there may be hope yet this side of the grave . . . 🙂
Great reframe!!
I am the secret keeper, the “only one who understands”, the “only one she can really talk to” the “reason he is alive”. Yes, I shoulder the shadow, but it’s who I am. And when I die, I will be very happy on a plane where everyone knows everything and they can stop relying on me 🙂
I seem to attract people (even total strangers) who feel they must confess to me / be absolved somehow.
Moreso, lately.
if you don’t wanna’ buck up and deal with your ugly bits, you have to pretend they’re someone else’s.
the most personal (and common) form of passing the buck.
what’s sad is there’s some gorgeous stuff we give away in shadow and projection, too.
I find “Talk to me like you love me” works wonders for my loved ones who like to be mean to me from time to time (Mercury in Taurus)!
Ooh i like that kashmiri, gonna use that one (also merc in taurus).
I want to hug you Elsa, for having said that! 🙂 Love it!!