Transiting Pluto is now firmly in my twelfth house. It occurred to me, I have hardly any friends left post it’s transit of my eleventh. Pluto is such a slow moving planet it is hard to assimilate or track its effects as it moves through a house in your chart. This is a ten-year transit, give or take; for a moment there I had a glimpse of awareness. I thought I’d mark it for Google purposes. If someone plugs in “Pluto transit the eleventh”, this will come up.
The first wave of friends dropped off when I had a baby. It’s common when you transition from “no kids” to parenthood. All your friends with no children disappear and it’s easy to see why. You become consumed with your baby and your childless friends can just not relate. You are also tired and you are busy and all the things that interested you before seem less important and so a separation occurs.
In my case, my best friend at the time had an abortion right as I was having a baby and she just didn’t want to be around me after that. We had taken these different paths and she just didn’t want to see me with my baby.
Time passed and more friends fell but I simultaneously made new friends, and the new friends were powerful across the board in one way or the other and healing to me. I forged what I thought was going to be lifelong friendships as I am prone to have but in this last year as Pluto wrapped up in my eleventh house I watched in horror as one friend after another took an off ramp.
Even in the midst of this, I could see how I would benefit. I could be losing friends left and right… suffering epic betrayals and still see how things would come out okay in the end. This is just my personality.
Some of these relationships were decades old so it was like being betrayed by one of your organs or something. Whoops! There goes a kidney, but what are you going to do? If your kidney goes south, it goes south. It has got to be removed from the body or else so you really learn to let go, at least I did.
Eventually I threw open all the windows and all the doors so if they could go they could all go together understanding I would not lose anything I could not do without.
Have you ever suffered a wipe out like this? How did you cope?