Ana asks on
“What qualifies as an authentic deal-breaker Elsa? Where do you draw the line?”
Ana, I can’t tell if you are asking a general question or you want to know what breaks a deal for me but in whichever case this judgment is entirely up to the person involved.
For example, I’d have likely cut the rope on Vid’s friend if I were in his position. I just can’t imagine approaching my friend in the school yard to be shoved off with what would feel like the whole school watching, time and time again. I just does not seem I’d be able to handle that much (public) rejection but I can’t say for sure because I don’t know how Vid feels when he is with his friend. In other words some of these things are intangible.
As an example of that, not many people would stay on the phone, or the email or the chat with a yelling man offloading his 16 year career in Special Forces with force he doesn’t even know he wields. Never mind his many rants about killing people, however I knew the man. And I knew him WELL. And I knew his value even if he was completely and utterly blowing me off the planet with energy he had contained for 20 years in the near term. I could feel him. So this is an example where you’ve got a clear deal-breaker that does not break a deal.
I wrote awhile back how I lost a lot of friends during Pluto’s transit of my 11th house. Most of them I would not want back but some of them have so much credit with me, if they were to surface at any time for any reason, I would bond with them again in 2 seconds even in cases where I was dumped HARD.
In other cases… well there is less credit and if you knock on my door again I’ll be wondering why and probably say that too. “What are you doing here after..?” I would be seriously curious, see?
So I don’t know what the answer is here but I will be more specific the point I was trying to make. I have been saying over and over that I am seeing more and more people who would like to heal their relationship problems, most likely courtesy Pluto’s (upcoming) transit through Capricorn so I am trying to put these things out here that mess people up as I discover them or see them everywhere I look. And one of the things I see is people pull the trigger way too soon.
I guess it is a matter of gaining some control of yourself and your psychology and while this is my own issue, I think it belongs to the collective as well. Fact is we are all “works in progress” as they say and if you’ve got someone who is not a henius bitch or bastard, you might want to try to hold on to them.
I had a gal befriend me awhile back. For some reason I trusted her right away. I just liked a whole lot and I wound up confiding in her around my daughter one afternoon when in a lot of pain. She was pretty Aquarian and I guess I got too intense for her because I never heard from her again… for about 4 months.
4 months later she sent me an e-card and I just couldn’t believe it. I guess she reads my blog still because it seemed the card was in response to something I had written although I didn’t ask. But here’s the point:
I really think that gal pulled the plug in error. I really liked her and would have been her friend for life. I make a pretty good friend, it must be obvious, so this is what I am talking about.
Make sure what you discard is actually discardable because you throw things out for years and years because the thing (which is a human being) didn’t meet your standard for a day and guess what you’re going to wind up with?
Pluto in Capricorn asks you be careful what you flush