Hey,
I am a 21 year old, true Scorpio. My husband is a 29 year old Gemini. We love each other very much and are thriving to make things work. We have a 7 month old baby girl and a little boy on the way. Yeah, I know our sex life rocks… right… pregnant so fast. WRONG!!! He’s morning and I am night, he wants it now and I am slow to heat up.
We both wish we were freaks in bed, but something holds us both back! That’s not even half of it. You should hear some of the childish things we scream at one another. We are in such a love/hate circle that it makes me sick. I am so beat down trying to keep up with his mind and way of thinking. I think he’s probably beating himself to death trying to keep up with my tactics.
At the end of the day we both know what counts and that our little baby is more important than our selfish thoughts. We have been married a year and a half now. How much longer will this crap go on before it comes to a halt? Please help!
Scorpio Mom
United States
Dear Mom,
Well you sure got my attention. Two babies, a house full of chaos and a frustrated man and women in love. It was stressful just to read about the frenetic pace of your life and what I noticed was things calmed when you got to this part:
“At the end of the day we both know what counts and that our little baby is more important than our selfish thoughts.”
That right there is a Saturnian statement. It is a grown up thing to say. It shows you are mature enough to set your priorities and it shows your ability to commit.
Because this is the only calm place in your mail (and in your life) it suggests you can get relief by consciously bringing more Saturn energy into your life (which is what you did when you wrote a Saturn figure like me). So what is Saturn energy?
A conscious commitment to rules and some kind of structure will bring relief. “We don’t fight in front of the kids” for example. It’s hard but you’ve got to do it. Work to embrace your responsibilities as it seems to stabilize you.
Slowing down will also help. You are exhausted. You state as much, plus you are having babies back to back with no recovery time. I know your stellium in Scorpio likes an edge but let’s not be ridiculous.
You say yourself you are trying to do everything at once and obviously this is not going to be possible. You are not going to be able to solve all your problems in a day but you can solve them over time. Over time you can make your life exactly as you like it but how about chewing one bite at a time? It seems to me you’ve got to do this because the other isn’t working. You are hitting a wall here, see?
Pick a day, pick a problem, implement one solution at a time. For example, start with one day a week your husband takes his time with you in a bed. He commits to this see? Nail that one corner down then move to the next.
I think you get the idea. Much love and good luck.