Okay, so I was reading just last night (!) about projection, the Shadow, and the 7th house from this lady:
She says that if we’re consistently attracting stuff we don’t like in our partners, what we need to do is to embody those qualities ourselves so we’re not as attracted and attached to them in the Other.
So, let’s say I’m attracted to closet sex addicts and people who can’t commit to lunch, let alone anything long-term. By her logic, I now need to become the unavailable one and I dunno, troll Craigslist for multiple one-night stands so I’ll no longer attract people like that. Elsa, do you agree? I really don’t want to embrace my Shadow to that extent, but honey, my usual MO ain’t working, either.
Avery, I do agree with her but you are talking about more than one thing here. Projection is something that occurs but it is neutral. You may project your shadow (Pluto) but you may also project your positive qualities (Venus) as I outlined in the video.
As to your specific example if you are constantly attracting non-committal sex addicts chances are you share these issues but your solution is misguided, as you know. 🙂
Must easier and less destructive to simply stop what you are doing and ask yourself what you have in common with these people you keep meeting and then allow the answer to that question come to your consciousness because it will.
Once you integrate this side of your personality you will no longer keep meeting these types. Your psyche will send up a new signal and it will be well worth the trouble because you will be off in a new direction and more of a whole person to boot. This is what I call liberation by the way.
What do you constantly attract?
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