I read the advice that you put out to others and am amazed by your integrity. You lay it on the line as you see it, and that is why I am here.
Over 2 years ago, my significant other and father of my kids left me. The first year I was just reeling, without one clue over what had happened. The next year, I spent trying to cope with his abandonment of my kids (first) and myself. The last few months, I have started to build myself up after this devastation… we were together for over 7 years and have known each other since high school.
My question is – and I hope I am wording this in a coherent way – from an astrological standpoint, what would be the most complementary person to start looking for. As in, what signs show the characteristics that meld the best and not always oppose or try and be a bossy know-it-all.
I know I want someone independent and yet one that can spend lots of time with me and not lose their self in my strong personality. He needs to be able to be open and honest, someone that can hold their own in a conversation with me. I hope you can help with some suggestions.
Thanks for your time.
Long Time Reader with Six Planets in Scorpio
I have followed your blog for years and know you to be a dedicated partner and mother. I am shocked and saddened to hear of your loss. I am very sorry for your children as well and will try to help.
As you know, you have your Sun and Moon and four other planets in Scorpio. And you’ve read me long enough to know I am not going to tell anyone what sign to go out and pick as a partner… except for this time, because your loss is so profound and your chart so extreme. And also because I know you well enough you are not going to give anything I say more weight than it deserves, so here goes:
With this much Water in your chart, you are going to have to find Earth. You need someone with significant earth in their chart, so Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn.
And I don’t necessarily mean Capricorn Sun, Virgo Sun, Taurus Sun. When I say “find some earth”, I mean someone with significant placements in one or more of these signs. You want the Sun, Moon, Rising or a stellium in earth, for sure. And with all your Scorpio, more is better. Because you need someone who can ground your emotions and the more aware you are of this, the better.
Now if pressed, I would say of the earth signs in general, Scorpio fares best with Virgo because the agendas of these signs to not conflict at all. And this goes double for you, based on what you say you are looking for.
– You used the word “oppose” which rules out Taurus which opposes Scorpio.
– You said you don’t want to be bossed and Capricorn is a natural boss.
– Last you said you wanted someone who can have a conversation (Virgo rules communication) and someone who will be independent and not get lost in you. Virgo is always unmarried (even when married) and although they’ll keep you company just fine, their work is always a primary focus so they will not be breathing down your neck.
Also, I like to match Scorpio with Virgo because together they get to play the Pluto / Persephone thing (in both directions) which is pretty darned tasty if you ask me. This is especially true of Virgos born your era (roughly 1956-71) who have Pluto in Virgo and consequently an enhanced affinity with Scorpio.
So there you have it.
::all the obvious disclaimers go here::
Again, I’m very sorry. Much love and good luck.