Astrology is really good at cutting through veneer. It’s pretty common I hear someone make claims that just don’t jibe with their chart.
I’ve done this myself. It usually indicates a person is divorced from some part of their character and it’s possible to live your whole life this way, which has a weird effect.
As an example a person may have a large stellium in the 7th house, but claim they’re happy to be alone and perhaps even believe it. Another person may have a vindictive nature, but kid themselves about that. A third person might have the chart of a strong parent but say they don’t want children.
It easy to see how this can happen. In most families or cultures there is an established standard of behavior. Being human, we try to conform to expectations even if the expectations are that we rebel. This is okay, unless you happen to be designed for something that is not popular in your era.
In the 1950’s a woman was expected to marry, whether she was suited to it or not. I grew up in climate were being a “free spirit” and “doing your own thing” was what was touted or talked up. I followed suit but now realize I am truly cut out to be in the middle of a Walton’s type family. That is what would really “free my spirit”.
Working as an astrologer, I am often the person who tips someone to their true nature. This can create a huge storm in your life. Just being told something as simple and obvious as you don’t want to be alone, can throw a person for a loop, but it simultaneously liberates you from from living a lie.
Are you living in accord with your deepest nature?
One thing that’s fallen by the wayside is a desire for a secure bought home. Saturn is transiting my 2nd, first I was terrified. But Im not sure my vision of adulthood is primarily that. I need a home, yes. But I think I want to moved toward being someone who acts righteously based on their integrity/ideals. Can I get there? I dont know. I hide or obfuscate my plans and commitments or play small. With an active 6th house, am I small? I dont want to be.
You’re so right Elsa! I am what I am and I have a serious 7th house stellium in Taurus + 3 outter planets in Libra. I love having friends and romance. Quality Relationships are a big focus for me.
Thank god for my Aquarius moon + Scorpio rising too. I don’t tolerate bs. I am not a doormat. I will amputate. I think these placement counter balance all that Venus. If the price of any relationship is too high (like the person is chaotic or a drama queen etc), I’d rather be alone!
I learned a lot about how much fun I can have on my own after a devastating breakup/divorce 10 years ago. I taught myself to skateboard back then. Instead of looking for that rush in a situation with someone els, I was re-directing that need for passion and love right back into myself. Total game changer.
Now at 43 yrs old, I own two small businesses that I created on my own. I have no biz partner or mentor. Ofc sometimes I wish I had someone to bounce ideas off of (work wise). It’s not easy at all and there have been many times I’ve cried and wished there was someone to help with the pressure or give me solid advice.
Recently I had a realisation about myself… I am actually more dominant in personality than I thought! Ofc I can be supportive, accommodating, kind, diplomatic etc. I’m a venus woman. But reflecting on my past relationships, I realize that the ones that worked the best were the ones that let me lead. Now that I can see this about myself, I can better show it to a potential partner so it’s not such a surprise or power struggle later down the road.
I think though not being a parent is becoming increasingly more common with the newer generations, so instead find a way to channel that energy differently.
Good luck with that! Procreation is the ultimate creative act.
Are “neopets” really equivalent?
Not being mean. I can see how not having kids is sensible when living in hell, but don’t kid yourself around the magnitude of what’s been taken from you.
This seems harsh. Parenthood is profoundly difficult, and even more so for the parents of children with lifelong health problems, or those not temperamentally suited for it.
And gay people! And the tragically infertile! And those with a different, dangerous passion or mission in life!
To say raising children is the only or best way to find fulfillment in life is …. Wrong? Simplistic? Unkind?
Well, you’ve expanded or edited what I said to fit your idea. In reality, I am not an unkind person. I feel you’ve misunderstood me and may be unkind, yourself in doing so. My comment stands.
@BellaDonna what you say us interesting, I’ve recently come across human design predictions for 2027 onwards, I’m only a beginner but they seem to rslk of the cross of the sleeping phoenix (20/34) which us replacing the previous one and that this change has been building since uranus was discovered ( Think they refer to it as ‘the great mutation’ or that might be happening at the same time) … part of it seems yo involve evolving away from more of a ‘tribal culture’ to more of an age “that is incredibly individual in nature” …. who knows how this will effect relationships ? I too wonder how this will work alongside individual charts … as some people will still be born with the markings for family etc even if others aren’t … think human design uses dome astro but other systems too …it certainly piqued my interest!
This question has me scratching my headlights: is true nature the domain of the nodes? My Scorpio South Node in the 10th is “used to the drama and trauma of life” so my default position is to stir the status quo.
I’m seeing that replay as I watch the current drama playing through in our community: “something is off here!” I’m in there micromanaging the cutting of cake!! 🙄 What? Why?
My Taurus 4th House North Node really wants to chill and enjoy the “sacred in the everyday— serenity. But Uranus and Venus(?) have just passed over that Taurus North Node insighting rebellion again. That wily coyote.
I’m waking to my predisposition and hope/ pray for freedom from an old habit whose time has come to let it go. Into the God Can it goes. 🙏