Ten years ago, it was trendy for a person to say they had no regrets. I’m not sure the same percentage would say it today.
Lately I come to regret my own recklessness. Throughout my life if I saw a cliff or a big divide, I would leap for sure. I was naturally daring. I enjoyed challenge, but I was also quite stupid. Things turned out okay for me, considering.
I wasn’t rebelling. With Mars conjunct Mercury in the 9th house of my chart, I’ve been rarin’ to go all my life. I was never told to slow down and it would have occurred to me on my own.
Today, I often recommend that clients to take the time to make a good decision. For example, you really don’t want to marry the wrong man…or not marry the right one! Some of us manage to do both those things and you pay for this stuff over time.
I realize now that gambles against the odds and leaps of faith come easy to me. Temperance does not!
Are you reckless too? How has this tendency affected your life?
I most definitely have been. I am learning how to curb this. I think a lot of my stuff has to do with emotions. I have Moon square Mars and Saturn & it has gotten me in trouble…especially in the workplace (Mars rx and Saturn rx 10th house). I have had to bit my tongue until it bled to keep stuff in which I am not sure is so helpful. I would like to think my Mars/Saturn/Pluto conjunction channeled positively would help curtail my recklessness, although I’m not sure. I do know that I have to get a handle on the Mars/Saturn/Pluto conjunction because it squares my North Node (purpose in life) which is conjunct my Moon. I think that I can undo myself if I do not keep my emotions in check? Sigh. I’m still trying to understand and manage this energy. So far it’s been a struggle and the only solution I have found thus far is to be a freelancer or self-employed.
Yes, I have a tendency to be reckless (Aries MC and Sun/Uranus maybe?) I’ve found that I often jump into situations without really thinking through the consequences. I guess I’ve had a lot of interesting experiences this way, but would have been better off without some of them!
I alternate between being cautious and reckless. I have found myself venturing into things without thinking them through sufficiently, and I have found myself being so scared of doing something it would take a lot of effort for me to feel confident about doing something.
The astrology of the fearful side of my personality: Saturn in Sagittarius in the 10th house, Sun in Virgo square Saturn, Venus in Leo (6th house) square Pluto in Scorpio (9th house) and Mars in Aries Rx (1st house) square Chiron in Cancer (4th house)
The astrology of the risk-taking side of my personality: Moon in Sagittarius in the 10th house, Uranus in Sagittarius in the 10th house, Mars Rx in Aries in the 1st house, Sun square Uranus, Mars sextile Jupiter in Gemini (3rd house), Moon trine Mars, and I think Moon opposite Jupiter.
I’d have to say I’m the reckless, risk taking type. Many times I’ve had to ask myself, ‘What were you thinking?’ and then answer myself, ‘Oh ya, you weren’t thinking!’
Aries Sun and Venus, Venus is trine Uranus. Luckily, I’ve got Jupiter conjunct my IC, so I usually land on my feet. 😉
I’m with Heyfa.
My heavy Saturn clouds looming overhead can be so cautious and scared to move forward sometimes that it can just drive me into a near-neuroses sometimes worrying. Then, VOILA. A bolt of Uranus-lightning hits me and says: “You really going to listen to that guy?? (gesturing to Saturn) To hell with him! Go for it!” So what do I do? Give Saturn the finger and go on my merry way –being as reckless as possible. EVEN THOUGH Saturn has educated me, I shun his advice. Then when I’m battered and bruise, just like Saturn told me I would be, I go back, with my tail tucked between my legs, and beg for mercy. Saturn scolds me and punishes me for awhile. In the background, however, Jupiter is sneaking in my room at night, putting ice on my bruises, giving me tea and toast, and reading me lovely fairy tales of all the cool stuff I can do in the future. Then I feel better.
And because I’m so rebellious, I’m slow to learn the Saturn lessons. So, eventually the cycle repeats, each one a little longer than the last. *This* is my life. 😉
In my 20’s I sure was. I don’t regret any of it. It made my life exciting. And as a double Scorpio with Mars and Neptune in Scorpio, I am equipped to handle the deep ups and downs.
I am sooo not reckless. I force myself out of my comfort zone from time to time, but it is hard to do, and it scares the bejezus out of me. My comfort zone is not risky. Risk stresses me out. I know there’s risk in life though, and like I say – I go there sometimes, but with a lot of thought and planning and care.
Nope. Definitely not reckless. I see it as a setback to achieving my goal.
Oh Boy! My problem is that when I feel fearful or hesitant about something, somehow it goads me into feeling I must conquer that feeling by jumping head-long into whatever it is. The thing is that sometimes that fear or hesistancy is a legit warning to stay away!!! I haven’t quite gotten the hang of interpreting those signals properly and not just go bulldozing forward like I’m being brave or adventurous.
no, not at all. Neptune square Mars.
but I have mars square sun, that makes me angry quickly 🙁
@K@
That was beautifully written and reading your self analysis helps me to understand someone I really love.He is Uranus and I am the Saturn figure.What you described sums up our relationship so well.Fortunately,I have Saturn conj Venus and Merc so even tho I have the “I told you so” face on,it is still coupled with mercy and extreme forgiveness.
My Saturn take get’s highly frustrated with being able to see the big picture,trying to offer real honest help and having Uranus reject it just for the sake of being rebellious.It’s exhausting watching someone consistently make bad decisions knowing they are not only hurting themselves but those around them suffer as well.
Personally,I have several regrets because I struggle with failure.I fear failing which causes me to forgo taking certain risks.I NEED an Elsa consult to figure this out better.I HAVE VEN/SAT/MERC/MOON/SUN in the 1st so I can identify with having Aries traits of rushing in head first.That tendency does come with regrets when things aren’t thought out in advance.
I’ve always been a leaper too. People are astonished at some of the things I’ve done in my life and call me incredibly brave and adventurous. But it’s never felt that like to me. I always had to force myself to leap because otherwise I knew the fear would keep me frozen to the spot I knew it was time to leave.
Now I wish I been more considered about a lot of it.
I would like to spare people some of the pain I have endured. It’s too late for me in many regards, but not for others..
yes, I have done many crazy impulsive things in my youth..I look back now and shake my head..i’d die if my children did what i did!!now, as an adult I have a husband who grounds me..I am always suggesting wild and crazy things and maybe now and then he agrees, but mostly he just says no it’s a crazy idea!
Anybody else have Jupiter square Uranus? 😉 That’s a sure fire way to gauge “leaper” compulsions in the chart! 😀
I have to add,I have jupiter very strong in my chart and have always been very lucky even when doing stupid dangerous things.nothing bad ever happened or never got hurt..
I’m reckless when it comes to some things, but not others.
When I was 21 I went on a bike trip around France, alone, without a means to change a flat tire. Uhhhh. Can you say, stupid? LOL
I have never had the luxury of being reckless. I was responsible for my little sisters as far back as I can remember and I have been a mother since age 18. I have always had to be very careful as others were relying on me. I did however jump out of a plane a year ago on my birthday…and it was amazing. I like an adrenaline rush but being all out reckless or even a little was something that I couldn’t do. I wanted to sometimes…I wanted to run WILD…but, it wasn’t in the cards for me.
@K@ – I don’t have the square, but have Jupiter (Aquarius 29 deg) opposite Uranus (Leo 27 deg). Would that still influence a ‘leaper’?
yeah I quit a good job for band practice time constraints. It was so stupid that even my band members were so stunned and shocked and stupified it was hilarious. I think I lost face in that. But honestly I was looking for an excuse because number one it wasn’t creative for me, too consuming of time away from things I loved and third I thought the band had potential. One died young and the other two got in a fight/argument so it wasn’t going anywhere anyway. You thought I learned my lesson well no, I left a good job again! At a college. But now I have the freedom thanks to my good ol parents to really dive into what I want to do. And if it pays off i have to pay them back. Always go with your gut! I don’t know where the “gut” would be in astrology per say if anyone can tell me, but you usually know what’s best for you. Being presumptuous isn’t so good but thank goodness for our angels. I would have been dead by now!
Hahahhaa I was born a reckless speed demon! Too much Jupiter, Neptune, and with Mars-Uranus in Sag square Sun, Lilith ascendant, Pluto alone, hello! 🙂
For a brief period I considered learning to be a more proper, more solid person. Then I realized that’s just not going to happen. I am truly not hardwired that way. Instead I will be the crazy stunt person for everyone to wince at, and I’ve come to terms with it.
Who knows, maybe I was locked up for centuries and this life I get to be free! Crazy, but free!
@Carrie: Wow. Yes! I would say that qualifies for “leaper” tendencies 😉 – maybe even more so than the square! But you have the option of either/or since the energies of that polarity can shift back and forth. Are you itching for more adventure?
This New Moon, even though it is sort of widely conjunct, on the 10th, IMHO, is going to activate those tendencies a little.
You’re going to have a wild month up ahead! Enjoy it! 😀
Wreck of the Hesperus here , but have learned to listen to my inner voice thats what its all about ~
K@ – Anybody else have Jupiter square Uranus? 😉 That’s a sure fire way to gauge “leaper” compulsions in the chart! 😀
Yep, I do have Jupiter square Uranus and yep I do take mighty and (seemingly) *sudden* flying leaps… but I have good, strong counter-balancing factors in my chart, so I ALWAYS land on my feet. It usually costs me Big Time though.
I’m at an age though where I don’t think I can, or want to, take such drastic gambles anymore, nor pay the price.
A leaper all my life too, but am older now; I think my leaping days may be over 🙂 I like cautious and quiet now! Uranus conj Sun but big ol’ Saturn in the 1st taking over now 🙂
@ocean – my mother used to say that when her hair was messed up by the wind: “I look like the wreck of Hesperus’ — haven’t heard that in a long time! I finally looked it up, after hearing it all my life, and found out what she meant haha
I was a train without brakes as a teen in so many ways. There were things I didn’t do,wouldn’t do, but the things I did caused me a lot of pain. Got myself into some veeeerrry stupid situations for sure.The cautious and careful came when my dd came into my life. She changed me forever <3 Both my children have and I am grateful for them. I have been on the learning curve learning to balance my risk taking energy vs. my cautious far sighted energy. I went from totally carefree to overly responsible for a lot-kids, husband's parents,and being tied to the home and that's it. No real friends for a long time.No activities for me but what involved the family etc…I can't deny there is a wild child beating in my heart, but there is also a very responsible woman here too. Uranus opposite sun, Mars trine Uranus,but…Uranus trine Saturn.