How To Date A Scorpio Who Has Been Betrayed

Hi Elsa,

I’m with a Scorpio man who’s been horribly betrayed in the past.

I’m taking it slow, and would never hurt him like his ex did.  We’re very good together, but he’s still having a very hard time letting go of the past.  He’s extremely skittish about relationships in general.

Is there any way I can help him with this?


Dear Girlfriend,

I understand you want to save him but this is entirely his process.  All you can really do is be a trustworthy person. You can show up and how he handles it is entirely out of your hands. I’ll tell you my own experience though.

First, all Scorpios have been betrayed and a  good number of them trust no one because of it. But other Scorpios will trust their gut. They open up to a select “inner circle” – a very small group of folks who they feel reasonably certain will not betray them.

As to which category your man falls in, I have no idea but I’d suggest you give him some space. I wouldn’t advise you tell him to “let go”. Scorpios will let go when and if they please!

His process is a deep and private one. There’s no way he’s going to let you in there to move his wires around. If you want to love a Scorpio, their pain is part of the package.

Good luck.

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17 thoughts on “How To Date A Scorpio Who Has Been Betrayed”

  1. “If you want to love a Scorpio, their pain is part of the package.” That is the purest bit of advice. Being one of the Scorpios that is truly the way being able to love again has come for me.

  2. That’s a deep and varied subject. 😀 They will prevail. I don’t know as if they have a choice. And I’m not about to interfere. My choice. Watch listen and learn. I have two scorpio contacts and they are the most down to earth people I know. They are down with life. Yes, it’s not always been or is a bed of roses, but hey that’s life. Get over it. Taking on their problems is not the right thing for me to do.

  3. This is so timely. Heard news last nite of the betraying scorpio man (he’s just doing his thing no matter who he pisses off) who now has hooked up with a tough knife wielding cookie. Apparently their honeymoon phase is over. And she is vicious and physically vindictive. He’s dodging. But she’s determined. Shaking head. To be continued.

  4. Once upon a time I was dating a Virgo that had been badly burned in his past relationships. An astrologer gave me this advice: If a __________ (put in any of the twelve astrological signs), tells you how hurt he’s been in the past and has a list of how he’s been used and abused- don’t walk away. Run! You’ll be the next one on his list, honey. He’s already got you walking on eggshells and he’s got the hand in this relationship.

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    Susan Jackson

    I am a Scorpio ( 5 planets in Scorpio ). Realized recently that
    the last 4 partners were (starting with the first one) : Leo, then Pisces, then Leo with Pisces rising, then Pisces with Leo rising!!! What does this mean? Any ideas? Thought it might be a fun open question.

  6. Your post is great advice Elsa, and I appreciate it looking from my (Scorpio) point of view. Sorry eye-rollers, but I don’t think you get it.

  7. You know those downed power lines…?
    ~Think of them like that.
    So far as I’m concerned, whoever would take these on, might also bath cats for a living & enjoy it. But, hey, I always heard, there’s someone for everybody…but, it ain’t me, babe! 😉

  8. Gosh I almost forgot about the scorpio I co-habitated with many years ago. He always went back to his absent non existent father who wanted his mother to have an abortion. He was one of those big (in size) sweet guys that you never wanted to experience getting angry. Out of control!

  9. F-Scorpio men. Never, ever again for as long as I live in this life or in the next two million lives that am reincarnated in. Scorpio’s are evil incarnate. Especially the men. Break-up as fast as you can. And never look back. Am an expert on this sign. Especially the men. Female Scorpio’s seem to have a modicum of compassion to them. With the men is all about them. No one else exists. If they act like other’s exist, they’re acting.

  10. yep scorp men/man control freaks everything their way secretive they expect you to be mind readers, ok if your another water sign.

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