Hi Elsa, My boyfriend and I are kind of in a slump. He’s going through a divorce right now. We’re living together, but he’s pulling away – either due to depression or just mental chaos over his divorce. I’ve become more needy as he’s pulled away. I know my needs are important but I also […]
John Gottman who is a psychologist who wrote, The Mathematics of Marriage: Dynamic Nonlinear Models. He studied relationship in an effort to be able to predict who would divorce with very limited data. He came up with a super effective formula. He claims he can can listen to a couple talk about anything, for one hour,
I like to socialize. I was in a small group of adults the other day, meeting for our common interest. There were about a dozen of us. I had my Woman’s Club until it folded last year, after roughly 85 years. I still meet with a couple of the women monthly, but I miss the larger group so I
I feel sorry for some of these men, left high and dry by their wives. I feel sorry for women who are left as well, but some of these men have wives who are going to leave them and they just don’t realize, they’re about to be hit by a truck. I also think a
any couples are separating as Saturn wraps up in Libra. As painful as this may be, in most cases it is happening because the people have discovered that they are just not suited to each other, or that they able to make the deeper commitment that Saturn’s transit through Scorpio will demand.
Dear Elsa. I am in a very weird marriage. It is almost like we are roommates. We’ve been married for 18 years and I just want out. Unfortunately I can’t. We live in a town that is very expensive. I want my son to finish school here. He is a Junior and has only one
Dear Elsa, My marriage is ending, which is a very good thing. I am seeing someone else though (a Scorpio), who is adding to the confusion in my life. He is foreign, ambitious, passionate, and exciting. When I am with him, everything seems so effortless and my problems seem manageable. Because we both are very
