In another manifestation of Venus Uranus (detached and odd) and Venus Neptune (ignore)… this conversation was from some months ago:
“You realize that virtually every woman you have ever slept with reads my blog don’t you? What do you think about that?” I asked the soldier. “I think it’s remarkable. They’ll all found you. All of them.”
“I don’t know what to think of it,” he said. “I don’t know why they’d be interested, no one has ever really liked me but you.”
I shrugged and looked at him. I am pretty sure the look on my face wanted to hold him responsible for this.
“What? So some women in my past read your blog. How many men in your past read your blog?”
I laughed but I am telling you I was stunned – struck dumb. “Well oh my God, I have never thought of that. I have no idea,” I said. “There may be someone.”
“SomeONE?” he asked.
“Get your point. Okay, lemme just say this: If they are all going to read my blog I am glad there are not that many of them. I mean you have not slept with all that many people… something I am very grateful for so guess what? I will not bring this up again. Even if they are all reading, every single one of them, there are very few so it should not be very hard to ignore so that’s what I’ll do. That way you’ll be happy because I won’t be bringing this up, I’ll be happy because I won’t be thinking about it and they’ll be happy too because if they want to read they can. I mean, the stuff is public and that means anyone can read. My old boyfriend’s new girlfriend reads too, come to think of it, what can I say?”
“People read your blog.”
“Yeah. And as to any of my old lovers who read, I’ve no knowledge of it and hopefully it will stay that way. Okay. Let’s not talk about this again.”
“Fine with me. I didn’t want to talk about it in the first place.”
::snort::
How do you deal with your lover’s ex-lovers?
One of my SO’s exes is his sister’s best friend, and I really like her (handy). I used to see another frequently, we worked together and then he taught her AND her new boyfriend yoga. I dunno…he’s nice and so are they. I’m not the jealous type.
I try not to judge people who are jealous. I’m not in their shoes, so how would I know?? I can’t tolerate if someone is jealous/controlling of me though. Maybe that’s Sag ASC, must feel footloose and fancy-freeeee!
Man, that knowledge would definitely bother me. There are just some things that are better left unknown, for me and the other person. I like the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. Venus/Neptune happily ignoring for the sake of peace 🙂
Ha AnaB, I have Venus trine Neptune and I am constantly reminding people I’m NOT on a need-to-know basis!
as little as humanly possible.
lmao!
my husband and I mostly pretend each other’s exes don’t exist unless we’re absolutely forced to acknowledge the fact. It tends to work well for us.
I don’t really care about them. If I meet them and they seem nice enough, fine, but I don’t stew and whine about how jealous I am that someone else got there first. They are exes for a reason!
I can’t stand them. I don’t know them, but I can’t stand them. I don’t want anything to do with them in any way. I get so jealous of just thinking about them that it makes my blood boil. The mention of an ex-lover makes my toes curl with jealousy. I’m very jealous and very selfish. I don’t like to think there was any person other than me in my lover’s life. AT ALL. FINITO.
Mr. Gemini being a Gemini means that all his Exes are “friends” to some extent.
In one case, I don’t mind – the particular ex is nice and seems like a really good person.
A couple, I have to wonder why you’d ever want someone like that around you. They’re not nice people, period.
And then there’s one ex I can’t stand. When Mr. Gemini and I got together, he had just started hanging out with all his old friends that disappeared when he was with HER. More than a few confided in me that they couldn’t stand her, she was the reason they elected to lose contact, and they were glad to have their friend back.