Mars signifies violence and aggression in astrology. We all have Mars in our chart. Given sufficient provocation, we’re all capable to acting aggressively. That said, some fuses are shorter than others. They also have different qualities…
Where is your Mars? Do you feel you have a handle on it?
My First husband has his Sun, mercury, Venus , mars, Jupiter and Pluto in Leo. He had a major ego problem. He used violence with his words as well as fists to try to control me. When I left him, he stalked me, Threatened my life. He had his clutches in me and did not want to let me go. My sun, mercury and Saturn in Scorpio the 12th house. I did everything that I could to keep the peace.( My Mars is in Libra.) Like my marriage counselor said at what price. It was like my personality had to dissolve to survive. He kept me in a prison for 19 years.
My first husband, and the father of my two daughters, has Mars conjunct his Sun and Uranus in Cancer (8th House) and out-of-sign conjunction with Ceres, Mercury (9th House), and his South Node. That stellium of planets is part of a T square with Chiron in Capricorn (2nd house) and Saturn/Neptune (conjunction) in Libra in his 12th house. I experienced abuse and threats throughout our 15 years of marriage.
I have Mars in Sagittarius in a wide conjunction with my Ascendant. My Mars is Out of Bounds and part of a tight Grand Trine that includes my (Leo) Sun and (Aries) Moon. I am a survivor, somewhat of a spiritual crusader. He only beat me once, but it took me seven years to plot and prepare my escape from him. I had to drive 112 miles for counseling because I was afraid he would find out. I walked on eggshells, consciously avoiding provoking his violence for our entire marriage. I wanted to be strong enough to get my daughters away from him.
However, that failed, and he still punishes me through parental alienation and manipulating my daughters.
I wish I had consulted an astrologer before we got married. Looking at his chart and my chart, I can see solid hints/warnings that marrying him and trying to raise his children was not a safe choice.