What Chart Markers Indicate Age Difference In Relationships?

venus and mars Lorenzo LippiHi, Elsa.

What are the markers of attraction to older men in a chart of a woman? It’s a general question, so I’m not including any birth data.


Hi, Studying.

There are people who fare well by partnering outside their age range. There are clear markers of such a tendency, shown in chart. It’s a Venus Saturn signature which can show itself in a number of ways.

These are the strongest markers…

  • Cancer or Capricorn (Sun, Moon or rising)
  • Saturn in the 7th house or Libra
  • Venus conjunct, square or opposite Saturn
  • Venus in Capricorn or the 10th house
  • Stellium in Capricorn
  • Saturn in the 1st house
  • Major emphasis on 4th/10th axis

Certainly not every Cancer or Capricorn is going to find themselves in May/December love relationships. However, virtually all people in these types of relationships have one (or more) of these signatures.

It’s interesting to note that both parties, male or female, older or younger, will have these same signatures. I know many happy couples with a wide age gap. I covered this extensively in my workshop – Finding Your True Love & Soulmate. There is nothing like it anywhere. It’s highly recommended for anyone dealing with Venus Saturn issues.

Do you have experience with an age gap in a love relationship? Tell us!

114 thoughts on “What Chart Markers Indicate Age Difference In Relationships?”

  1. Yes, I have merc and sun in capricorn, venus in tenth sextile a saturn moon vesta conjunction in twelfth. I get on very well with older men, it’s a natural flow, blossoming and productive in a warm, relaxing way, in all kinds of relationships, social, business / career as well as community minded projects, including a good relationship with clergy and church prientated projects.

  2. Question: do both partners have to have this signiture?
    a man marriying a women 10 years older then him- do they both always have this in natal chart? or could it be nataly one sided?

      1. so if there is a long marrige – it will be evident in both natal charts.
        thank you for this elsa!!

        1. Astrology is sometimes so literal, that it makes me snort with suppressed laughter. 😀
          I have 4 of the markers Elsa suggested, and I do always get along much, much better with people a decade or even more older than me, since childhood.

          I ended up marrying a young-at-heart Aries only two years older, though. So, thanks for the clarification that both partners need to have it in their chart for it to manifest in a relationship.

  3. I have Saturn in the 1st. The men I typically dated were anywhere from five to 10 years older. The oldest fellow was 14 years older!

    Funny how things turned out. I married a guy close to my age. He’s a CAPRICORN. My only son and oldest kid is also a Capricorn!

  4. Hello. I have venus square saturn. Cap rising and moon. My venus is also in cap. Moon square saturn too. And idk if this matters but my 12th house is ruled by saturn with the moon and venus cozy as they can be in the 12th. My man is 17 yrs older than me ( he has a cap moon) and his house placements I’m not sure about bc I don’t know if he was born at 5:14 in the morning or 5:14 in the evening. Arg. But anywho it has taken this older, wiser, responsible man to tame me and HELP me see areas in my life that need improvement. And his stability really helps me. I always want to run when things get serious and REAL. His refusal to dump our relationship over trivial matters has opened this cold cappy’s eyes to lots of things I did not see or know how to feel before.
    Ash 🙂

    1. I like how you describe his handling of tumultuous times for I reflect the same treatment upon the women in my life as well.

  5. Hmm, I’m Libra and I have Cancer rising,my first husband was 6 years older, and now that I’m in my 60’s I find that the 51-60 age have a keen interest in me, I can usually guess a potential suitor’s age, and the age group is usually as mentioned. I try to stay away from the 50 year olds’, but heck, I’ll give them all a twirl if need be! LOL!

      1. I have a capricorn ruled 5th house.I also have my sun and Mercury in Capricorn. Before my Saturn return, I was drawn to older women. When I was 22, I dated a 40 year old who’s oldest daughter was 2 months older than me. Although, that was the biggest age gap, most were anywhere from a few months older to about late 20s. As I passed my Saturn return, I now find myself drawn to younger women about late teens to early 20s.

        1. Thats called nesting. Looking to mate and have kids. Thats not astrology as much as nesting hormones Im thinking

  6. I’m sure I didn’t phrase that quite right! Besides the obvious!!….But in general men or women who are attractive to and attracted by younger partners. Would Mercury be the signature?

      1. Sorry I posted before I saw your response!
        Ah so Saturn is the signifier both sides of the age gap relationship- that’s really interesting actually – I know someone with this Saturn and assumed they would be more interested in older partners. Thanks☺

  7. I have lots of these (cap rising, venusconjunct saturn in the 8th). My husband is the same age as me but I am definitely not attracted to young young guys. Just blech! I do not want to educate anyone

  8. Also the Moon in Cancer or in Capricorn and in the 10th house.

    I’ve always been attracted by older guys: Venus in Cap conjunct Sat in Capricorn, stellium in Capricorn (Venus-Uranus-Neptune-Saturne), Moon in Cancer in the 10th 🙂

  9. great article! I saw a lot of axis cap/cancer and 1st house 7th house Saturn axis.

    maybe for example, George Clooney’s wife, who has Aqua sun/venus with her cancer mars, indicate wanting an older, mature man. also, for cancer sun, Jerry Hall is with a much older, richer man, Rupert Murdoch, 85 years old. so the cancer/cap axis is strong.

  10. This topic’s really interesting to me.
    I have Aquarius Venus (ruler of 7th) opposite Saturn and I’m attracted mostly to younger guys. One I really like has stellium in Capricorn , but it’s a generation thing (Saturn, Uranus, Neptune)… It’s all conjunct in his 5th house, Uranus being ruler of 7th. I’m trying to figure out is there an older woman in his chart.:)

  11. I’m late to the game, but yes, Capricorn Venus in any of its manifestations (Saturn 7th, Venus Capricorn, Venus in aspect to Saturn etc.). I have not once truly loved anyone who isn’t significantly older or younger than me. My best friends also, not just my boyfriends (men).

    It’s also funny how this is looked down upon, as if you’re only in it for the money if there’s an age gap. Well yes, I won’t say it isn’t a factor, but mostly it’s just about relating. I don’t relate to people my own age. I prefer the company of people I can respect (older), or people I can teach (younger). People who can tame me (older), or people I can tame and help (younger). That’s how my friendships and intimate relationships have always been.

    Capricorn Venus in 4th sextile Saturn. My SO has Cappy Venus opposite Saturn. We relate.

  12. My partner is 12 years older than me, and many of my friends are older as well. I have Sun square Saturn, Moon trine Saturn, Saturn in the 5th, Aquarius 7th cusp.

  13. I have Cancer sun, Venus square Saturn, Saturn in the 1st and Venus in the 10th. I’ve never been attracted to older men per se (too much baggage) but I DO require “old souls” who exude maturity, ambition, and responsibility. This is probably why I skipped dating in my school years. ??

  14. I’m older than my husband. He has a Cap moon. I don’t think he could be in a relationship with a younger woman for any length of time. I knew him before I was in a relationship as a friend and both of the women where older. Not by a huge amount of years….but they were older. As am I. His being younger doesn’t bother me because he is definitely older in every way except his birth date.

  15. I was married for 16 years to a man 17 years my senior. Once he said, “When I got you I thought you could be trained. I see now that I was wrong”.


  16. I left out part of his comment. Here is what he said, “When I got you I thought you were young enough that you could be trained. I see now that I was wrong.”

  17. I know a man who is attracted to older women: Cancer Moon, Venus tightly conjunct and applying to Saturn at the MC in Aries.

  18. does moon in the 4th house mean a man is attracted to much older women?
    curious…see this alot and wonder if it’s the moon thing

  19. thanks elsa 🙂 I would love to read your thoughts about men with a 4th house moon. I attract alot to me- and don’t understand why?
    why me? what do they want????

  20. My last love was 13 years younger than me. He has sun, mars and venus in cancer square saturn in aries. Taurus rising and my scorpio sun/saturn conjunction sits in his 7th house. My 5th is aries which holds his satun and trines my moon which falls in his 8th house and wide trine to my venus. 4/10 for him is sun/uranus (or saturn). My saturn conjunct his moon. So lots of saturn there. Was determined to stay away from younger men after him and have been looking for someone older. Then today another man younger by 12 years professed his feelings for me.

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    I’m a Virgo with Scorpio moon and ascendant. I also have Venus in Leo opposite Saturn in Aquarius,Saturn in the 4th house,and Venus in the 10th house conjunct the MC. I also Pluto and Saturn dominant. This sounds pretty accurate. Most of the guys I like are 5-10 years older. I somehow find them more physically attractive for some reason.

  22. 10th house stellium in capricorn sun moon merc, saturn 1st house trine to venus= two husband 10 years older than me. 1st marriage was 20 years, 2nd we dated for 8 years first then married after he retired. He says I had him at insureance. Hahaha Doesnt sound romatic but It’s perfect!

  23. I have cancer rising, saturn in 7th house capricorn, venus square saturn. When I was young, I dated older men. At some point the ages leveled, then switched to younger men. It seems that the older I get, the younger the men I attract. Although I relate well to younger men, I resist as I am very sensitive to the social stigma attached to the dynamic.

    1. I also have moon, mars and chiron in my 10th house, with pluto and true node in the 4th. Maybe resistance is futile, lol.

  24. •Cancer or Capricorn (Sun, Moon or rising)
    Cancer asc me – Cap moon husband

    •Major emphasis on 4th/10th axis
    Stellium in Scorpio in the 4th – Taurus moon in the 10th – me

    I am 11 years older than my husband and we have been together for a very long time.

  25. I tend to be attracted to older men and my friends are usually older too. I have Cap rising and a lot of planets in my tenth including Venus. My seventh house ruler is in my tenth too, I thought that might contribute.

  26. Elsa, you should start a dating site using astrology, maybe you could get someone to help you make an app.
    Seems like it would help potential couples get what they wanted faster.
    Just a thought

  27. Well, well…I never though that this “phenomenom” of age difference , specially when the women are older was so widespread. I know only a little bit of Astrology, and I couldn’t tell you right now where all my planets are houses are. I would have to go back to my report for that. However, at a young age, I was attracting older men. Grew up, and my first husband was two years older than me; after that it seemed like everything shifted, and with very few exceptions, most of the men I dated, or even married were several years my juniors. I felt a stigma attached to that and judgement from people. However, those relationships lasted only about from four to 7 years….after, we just drifted apart even after a very auspicious beginning. I should have stayed with my first husband, the father of my sons. By the time I realized this, it was already too late; he died unexpectedly and tragically. He WAS my true soul mate and TRUEST love. I’m a Scorpio and he was a Taurus. I’ll be turning 65 on Tuesday, and I’m through with romantic relationships. Good article. Again, I will have to look in my natal chart and see where all this was stemming from, at least on my part. Thank you.

  28. Oh1 I left something vital out of my previous comment. I never saw myself, for some reason, as being lucky in love. It has been one hell of a roller coaster.

  29. Capricorn stellium in my 5th house, Venus in Capricron conj Saturn (Capricorn as well),my 7th house cusp is in Aquarius…are these indicators strong enough?

  30. I’m attatcted to younger women! My ex girlfriend was 8 years younger. Mercury conjunct the ascendant in Libra which aspects the 7th house. I have Venus square Saturn, but Saturn is conjunct Uranus, and the square between Venus and Uranus is closer, so maybe Uranus throws the Saturn square Venus out the window in regard to liking older partners?

  31. Yes, this is strong in my life. Before moving I was with someone 11 years in difference, and have a friendship with many older women. In fact I was just talking to a co-worker, 58 years old southern man, how I’m very much attracted to older women. Plus, most of my friends are older than me by an average of 15 years.
    Methinks my Moon opposite Pluto and Mars has something to do with my competitive aura with those my age. My words cut at times, and I plays Devil’s Advocate often.

  32. I have Mercury, Saturn, Uranus, and Neptune in Capricorn and my husband is 10 years older than me. I have always been attracted to older men.

  33. I have Cancer Venus on the MC. Also Venus Trine Saturn. I love age gaps, either a lot older or much younger than me. I’ve dated 11 years older or younger. Lately it’s been younger guys. 🙂

  34. I have venus inconjunct saturn (slightly wide orb) and found myself dating much younger men for a few years. I was in my 30s and they were in their 20s – eight years younger was my record.

    My fiance is 8 years older. He has venus conjunct saturn and has dated women who at times were younger than him.

    It took my mother’s encouragement for me to start dating men older than me, and it was a bit of an adjustment (I have mercury angular and strong in my chart, conjunct venus, and I also have gemini planets so youthfulness is a must.) My man does it for me as he looks and is quite youthful (plus has sag rising) despite his incredible saturnian vibes (four planets in taurus ruled by the venus that is conjuncted by saturn.)

    I have also seen sun-saturn and moon-saturn aspects in natal charts also point towards individuals having some experiences dating older or younger (than themselves) people. I have sun trine saturn.

  35. Wife and I are more than 13 years apart. She has several of these aspects – Cancer Moon, Venus/Capricorn opp Saturn. Venus is in the 9th and she did marry a foreigner, so that adds up, too. On the other hand, I have none of these signatures (oops) but I’ve always gravitated to women youngerish than I am. Prolly have planets in Lobo, sign of the grey, old wolf.

  36. Is there something wrong with me that I have Venus Saturn and am utterly turned off by age differences? I really don’t want to date someone who could be my father, and those guys have been creepy and shifty as hell who’ve wanted to. I really just want someone within a year of my own age who’d be an equal.

    1. I have Venus Saturn and although I don’t like much older men I like a man that knows more than me. I like a partner who’s capable and makes me feel like I am taken care off.

    2. Moon in Capricorn here, and I feel the same way. During a reading, I once had an astrologer suggest men who were about 15 yrs older than me. Ummm…NO. lol

      Love is love, and while it may be possible for me to fall for someone older than me, I am not attracted to older men. In one relationship he was 6 yrs older than me – the biggest age difference was 12 yrs, but he was younger (he is a Venus in Cancer and likes older women). Around my age, or a bit younger, is what I prefer.

      I have a stellium in Leo and three 5th house planets….I certainly don’t want a daddy, I want someone to play with (in a long term, committed relationship). That Moon is in my 9th, so I really enjoy someone who is smarter than me, from a different culture or who somehow broadens my horizons.

  37. I’ve noticed that a lot of older men with a gemini signature (moon, venus, mars) are attracted to much younger women

  38. True. I’m a Cancer rising with a stellium in Capricorn my 7th house & I have a Capricorn moon plus Venus, Mercury AND asteroid of marriage Juno in my 10th house. I have mostly date Capricorn sun and/or rising men OR men who were older (not that older, usually 4-7 years). I find I don’t prefer someone 5 or more years older but rather a Capricorn around my age.

  39. In my 20s I dated a man 10 years older than me. After that I had relationships with men who were younger, some of them much younger than me. I have Saturn conjunct moon squaring Venus in Capricorn….. One was a Cancer with Venus in Cancer, the other a Capricorn with Moon in Cancer.

  40. I am a man and have similar placements so generally speaking, would it be the opposite for me? For example I have Cap sun, major emphasis on 4th/10th axis, Saturn aspecting my 7th and saturn square ascendant.

  41. I have none of these common aspects yet my spouse is almost exactly 19.5 years older than I am. Oct 3rd and April 4th. Opposites truly do attract? LOL

    Virgo/Libra rising (depends on the chart style)
    Saturn in the 4th house (Capricorn)
    Venus in 12th house and not conjunct, square or opposite Saturn
    Stellium in Libra (North Node, Sun, Mercury, Mars and Moon)
    MC on 4th/10th axis. -does this loosely fit the criteria?

    Our Saturn and Venus’ do have many synastry aspects to each other.

  42. I sometimes wonder why I’ve been seeing this man for the last 1-1/2 years who is 16 yrs older. I’m a Libra with a natal Saturn in the 1st house, Venus in the 10th, and a stellium in the 10th. He is a Sag with Cancer rising and has Capricorn in the 7th house.

    Also, Saturn and Pluto are transiting his 7th house and Uranus is transiting his 11th. Jupiter is transiting my 1st Sag house and Uranus my 5th. Thanks, Elsa.

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