This question came from a client. I figure it may provoke people but I think it’s enormously interesting and with Saturn in Libra it is certainly topical so here it is. In this case we’re talking about a woman who lives with her parents though you’re welcome to make remarks on either sex.
There are endless scenarios out there and exceptions to every rule but when someone asks me something like this, I try to answer it straight. I don’t know if I am right but I am charged to offer my thoughts on the topic and in this case I told her I thought it probably did have a negative impact.
I said if she met a man who also lived at home, they might plot a future together but if she met a man who was on his own, she’d be seen as, “cared for”. In other words, he’s see that her parents were taking care of her so it would become a “sneak around behind the parents back” situation OR he would figure if he were serious, he’s have to be all the way serious as in make her his dependent. In other words she would go from being cared for to being cared for.
Now I am not judging that but here’s the difference: When a young man on his own meets a young woman on her own and they like each other, it does not take long for them to see that they would have an easier time if they joined forces. It’s just a normal things that occurs. Hey! Let’s share the burden and solve our problems together.
This may not sound romantic but it is. What’s more romantic then someone who wants to join their life with yours?
I did ask my husband this and his initial answer was that it doesn’t matter. He feels a man who likes a woman will take her from whatever her circumstances may be but then conceded that what he saw in the house where she lived would matter.
In other words, he’s going to figure the woman is like her parents which makes sense as she has not separated from them.
In the end, I do think it has a negative effect on partnering. It just keeps dating in the realm of finding a way to have sex while someone’s parents aren’t looking for the reasons outlined above.
Does living with your parents in your mid 20’s (and beyond) impede your chances of partnering?