I’m an Aquarian man who is hopelessly in love with his ex-girlfriend, an Aries. We broke up over two years ago and we are both seeing other people… but I still love her dearly.
I’m not one for divination or tarot cards or astrology, but recently I have started reading into the zodiac and I was amazed at how much birth signs impact a person’s personality. When reading the attributes for my birth sign and my ex’s, it was surreal. Everything was almost dead on. If I had known this stuff years ago I would have been a far more considerate and loving boyfriend and would have chosen to work on the relationship instead of defiantly just letting it go.
I think about her all the time, and more than anything I wish that I could have one more chance with her. I would treat her the way she deserves: with love, respect, and support, instead of being such a narcissistic ass like I was. I would spend the rest of my life with her and not give it a second thought. I was too young to realize how much of an incredibly dynamic person she was and she had an indelible impact on my life.
I’m a very logical and methodical person, so this is very difficult for me to ask the advice of a complete stranger. I just wish someone would tell me something different than “forget her, just move on, things are different now…”
I love her a lot, and she still is cold to me and only wants to communicate via email – but even just writing to her made me feel amazing. What do you do when you realize that you want to spend the rest of your life with a person who has moved on? I would do anything to get her back, and two years later I still dream about her. I m not psychotic, and I realize that I’m not the first person in history to feel this way, but I don’t want to give up. I want to spend the rest of my life with her, and if it takes me fifteen years to get her back, then it was worth every second.
I would greatly appreciate your words.
I’ve thought about this a lot and realize no can advise you because you don’t want actually want advice. You are running your own life which is appropriate and you sound utterly committed to loving this woman… indefinitely and regardless of any circumstance.
I am not going to tell you this is a bad idea because I don’t think it is. For one thing love is not an “idea”. Love is a feeling and if you love someone then you love them and that is all there is to it. And although there are any number of things you can do with the love, you feel it seems you know what you want to do with yours – you’re going to try to win this woman back. You have a commitment and with Saturn conjunct your Mars and square Venus in Capricorn, I don’t think anyone is going to dissuade you from goal!
I will say your chart shows hard karma when it comes to relationships, combined with a very idealistic vision of love. One manifestation of this would be to dream this girl up and then be deprived of her, which describes your current situation. But I can’t say it could not be possible; you could create a dream partnership with this girl through commitment to making a sustained effort, because for all I know you can. And though I am not sure I know any better than you do how to win this girl back, I will offer this:
Aries needs a challenge. So if you are slobbering on this girl’s doorstep she is not going to be moved, except in the other direction. So if what you’re doing is not working and it sounds as if it is not, I would seriously (Saturn word) consider pulling my horns in and waiting/seeing if she comes to you, even if this takes 15 years. Because if you can’t get her to come to you, then you can’t get her.