I was married to a man who was triple Libra. He left me for another woman. He had already been with her but telling me I was his world. A year later I felt healed enough to start to date again.
Unfortunately my dating relationships over this new year don’t last more than a month or two. I can easily attract a man. I am thin and fit, fun to be around, pretty, kind, sweet, generous, intelligent and ambitious. I have a great family and close friends who are dumbfounded at the problems I am having.
I am far from perfect but the men I have dated (more so fallen for) fall at my feet and repeatedly tell me they wish to give me the world… Sadly, this isn’t the case. I seem to get involved with men who are balancing two women- another and myself. I usually find this out after and the other women win out. Two of the men have returned since, almost sheepishly, to tell me they messed up. One went as far to tell me that I would make the
perfect life partner for him (Taurus).
I am at a point where I am frustrated as the Scorpio just disappeared with another woman. I am expecting his call and apology some time in the near future. Will this pattern of hurt keep going? Is there something in my chart that draws these men to me or me to them?
I feel like they want a revolving door but my rule is once they are out they don’t get a second chance. I am not looking for a shoulder to cry on but some realistic advice on my chart- things I can possibly change.
Virgo Sun, Pisces Moon
It sounds as if you are confused and authentically trying to do your best and while this may come across as harsh it is not meant that way because I really do feel your struggle, I empathize and want to help you. Things is that your marriage aside, your dating problems seem largely self-inflicted and Saturn’s transit through Virgo in aspect to most of your chart begs you take responsibility.
For example, you state you can attract men like flies and I believe you so if this is true why stop with a man who has another woman? Why not toss him and attract someone else who does not have another woman?
It is you making this choice, see. And all the friends and supportive family in the world is not going to be able to help you in the least if you do not decide to make better choices and yes, the pattern of hurt will continue, quite obviously.
As to why your make the choices you do, outlining this from an astrological perspective is outside the scope of this column but it seems clear to me you are attracted to the victim position and perhaps the feel of the edge of a knife in relationship as well.
I realize this may fall outside your current definition of self but you have to admit the facts fit and it again comes back to your Saturn transit which will force you to see yourself in the real light and if you don’t like the image you can change the frame and get a whole new lease on life in the process.”