Dear Elsa,
I am in a relationship with an Aquarius and I am having a huge amount of trouble getting him to open up and communicate more.
He often says people are always getting mad at him, but the thing is, when I get pissed at him, it’s because I think he can do better! For instance, tonight we were supposed to have dinner with his dad but he decided to not go… and he didn’t tell me. He said he thought it had been implied but when I asked how, he said he didn’t know.
I just want to know how I can get this guy to be more communicative.
Trying to Have a Relationship
Thailand
Dear Trying,
You’re not going to be able to get this guy do “better”. He could do better but he does not want to do better. With his Sun, Venus and Mercury in Aquarius (never mind an Aries Moon), this guy is going to do whatever he wants to do. And it seems to me he has no interest whatsoever in changing his MO about this or probably anything else you can possibly imagine, merely because someone wants him to.
As a matter of fact, considering his Mercury in Aquarius is square Uranus, I am sure he gets a rise out of rebelling and provoking people, especially via his communication (or lack of it). And this energy is so pronounced in this man, I would go as far as to say if you don’t like it… if you don’t like being shocked (which is a reasonable thing) then I would say you have the wrong man.
If you think you have the right man, then I would immediately quit bothering to tell him how you want him to communicate. When you do that, he had no choice but to jack you up. It’s his nature.
Good luck.
Wow, except for the Uranus square you could be describing my man and he has an opposition to Uranus. There is NO telling him what he should do. Lucky for me I DO like being surprised and he is a good guy.
Good luck, Trying.
Hah, Lupa, my friend’s husband has everything Elsa mentioned, except he’s got the Uranus opposition instead of a square as well, and I thought the same thing. This is spooky, isn’t it?
Oh, hell, at least it’ll keep me interested. Thanks!
I find it very interesting the comments that are being made about us aquarian men.
First off, what’s the problem desiding to change your mind. you women do it all the time.
Secondly, as far as communications goes, I happen to enjoy communicating about anything on any level. What I’m getting out of the above comments is you want to change your man. Listen communication come in many different ways and levels. Maybe if you want a better relationship with your aquarian man, it may be good idea to listen with new filters!
New filters are always good, I agree. However, two of the comments were about ‘liking being surprised’ by their Aquarian partners. It seems these two DO have good filters already!