Back on the theme of vicious women, I’ve only recently come to understand, if a person is vicious, they’re vicious and no one is excluded. It’s sort of like dealing with someone who thinks everyone they meet is X and Y and Z but you… you, Elsa P are an A!
Yeah, right. You’re an A today but look out tomorrow.
Once I knew this gal and I liked her a lot. She was spectacularly intelligent so you know I really liked her. I introduced her to a friend of mine.
The friend of mine was friendly of course but it wasn’t long before I heard from him. In short he let me know the gal vicious.
“She is?” I was so surprised. She was not vicious to me in the least. She was downright sweet.
The second friend opted out. “I can’t deal with her,” he said. He wanted no further contact with her.
I was not having a problem so I continued to deal with her. At the time. I thought this was a mark of good boundaries and integrity. One person’s judgment is not mine. But sure enough within a couple weeks the gal turned on me as well.
In the aftermath I recalled something she told me. She said that people always wanted to know her but then they changed their mind. Hmm. I withdrew.
Some months later she contacted me asking for candid comment. I had feelings for her so I complied. I told her she was vicious. This is when I really learned, if they do it to him or or her or to their kid or their mother, by God they’ll do it to you too. This also works in reverse.
If someone is kind or extends themselves to one person they are liable to extend themselves to another. And you can see this in a chart of course. People are what they are be it loyal or cutthroat.
Here is a tough one:
What happens in all your relationships eventually?