Hi Elsa,
My Scorpio husband has stopped wanting sex with me. It wasn’t like this a couple of years ago. I noticed about a year ago and started initiating. Now he often refuses me.
Now I’m noticing he doesn’t kiss me or touch me very often either in a non-sexual way. I am a very attractive woman so it’s not my looks. I’ve spoken to him about this and he says his work makes him too tired. But that made no difference during his 8 week break at Christmas. His behavior makes me feel unwanted and unloved. I don’t think he’s having an affair and I know it isn’t drugs or alcohol.
Do you have any ideas what’s going on?
Wife Missing Sex
Australia
Dear Wife,
Yes, I have a pretty good guess. I don’t think the lack of sex has anything to do with you. I think your husband is feeling his age. He is in his mid-fifties and you are nearly 20 years younger and I think he’s slowing down.
However, I don’t know that he won’t fire back up. He’s getting hit hard with the Saturn Neptune transit to his Sun and its ruler Pluto and I imagine he feels low energy and just tired and dissipated in general. And with a stellium in Pisces, I am sure you understand.
Things may very well improve late summer when this thing breaks apart but I still think this situation is a heads up for you. Because Saturn is about to enter Virgo opposing your Venus in Pisces… and the reality (Saturn) that you are married (Venus) to an older man (Saturn) may become the issue of the day.
Good luck.
Sometimes Scorp guys will cool off as a test, or when they are moody and broody about something completely different. I would call him on it and ask. Scorps usually appreciate truthfulness and you need not pussyfoot.
Th age gap would have an effect and that’s a hideously draining transit.
Try and get him to open up about anything that’s bothering him and get some cuddling in and see where that goes.