There is a lot of projection and misdirected anger out there right now. If you’re the one in the line of fire, you may feel you can’t do anything right.
This post relates to this: Getting More From Your Interactions With Others. I don’t think many people read it as there are only two comments but I have had private feedback about it and I think this is good time to consider this stuff due to the stress people, etc.
I’m not such a nice person when I have to have a MRI. I have claustrophobia and it’s particularly intense when the tech person thinks they are going to strap my head into a cage… like they do for cervical issues or to look at the brain.
I know how this is going to be for me and I try very hard to keep myself calm… whatever. But when the person starts attaching me to a board, invariably, my blood pressure starts to rise and no matter what I do, I start being short and clipped with the person.
Now I know they are innocent but they are also the person strapping me down, or trying to, so there is always some level of altercation, even though, I desperately want there to be no altercation.
So in that moment, the person who is trying to help me, becomes a target. I really want to spell this out. In this scenario the problem I am having is internal but I am blaming the other person.
And here’s the phenomena: once the test is done, I have no issues with the person whatsoever. Well, I had no issues with them anyway, but this did not stop me from acting out to whatever degree.
I’m saying that I get off the table and I wish them a happy day. No skin off my nose, at that point, though I may have bloodied theirs!
This is how a good person with good intentions can victimize an innocent person… and then go on their way, perhaps in denial of what just happened. You may not be claustrophobic but I bet you have your own trigger points.
Can you see things like this? Do you try to control yourself?