For the past several months, my husband (a Libra) has been having an affair with a woman he met at his former job. I have forgiven him and have tried to make it work, but he cannot or will not stop contact with her. He tells me he loves both of us and that he doesn’t want to lose me but that if it doesn’t work out with us, he wants to try with her.
My question is, how do I extricate myself from this situation? I have loved my husband for 17 years and it breaks my heart that this is how this is going to end. I do love this man very much and if there is a way I can keep my family together -we have a 12 year old daughter- then I want to find a way. But sharing him is not an option. If there is no way, then I would like your advice on the best way to get myself out of this situation. I will be eagerly awaiting your response.
I feel for you. This is about as clear as mud and your husband appears to have lost his mind. Here’s what I can tell you from astrology:
Your husband has five planets in Libra and apparently he really cannot decide. The funny part is that he’s not the one that is going to get to decide. Because he can’t decide, you are going to decide and it sounds as if you already have. You aren’t sharing him and I don’t blame you. So here’s the reality of the situation:
You husband is pinned to the pat. You can just imagine him tacked up on a dart board because that’s where he is. He’s impotent in the situation and his chart reflects this. Won’t or can’t, indeed. He is powerless and don’t you forget it.
You, on the other hand, are mobile. And it doesn’t matter if he is too disabled to figure out where the lines go and draw them; you are suffering no such impairment. And although I realize this is gross… I don’t think you have a choice but to send your husband to this other woman. Why? Because he won’t let her go! And that’s not okay with you, remember?
And I would also point out he is asking for this situation to occur. “If it doesn’t work out with you…” He is making sure it doesn’t work out with you by keeping the other woman in his life, wouldn’t you say? And can you stop that? You can’t. So it only leaves you this one option. Let him go try to “make it work” as he says. And you know what?
I bet it doesn’t work very well! Because your husband is generally very responsible as I am sure you know. And his daughter is going to be saying, “Hey dad, what the hell?” which is a very good question. So I think you’ve got a good chance to save your marriage but not unless you make a decision for him because remember? He can’t do it.
One more thing….
Your husband has no transits indicating divorce. He’s on the dartboard, remember? I’m not kidding about that. He is going nowhere. You on the other hand have all the energy. You are the one with the heavy duty transits and I’ll tell you what that means.
It means if you leave him, then he will be left – not the other way around. It means if he leaves you and goes to her, he will still be on the dart board. He will accomplish nothing, but you will be infused with energy.
I hope you get this and on the chance it helps let me spell it out one more time in the plainest language I know:
You – Hard on
Him – Flaccid