Dear Elsa,
I am 20 yrs old. Sometimes I get turned on by watching lesbian porn… in fact, watching all porn (gay, straight, lesbian) turns me on. Does this make me a lesbian?
When I was 15 I liked this female teacher of mine but only because she was nice to me. I even dreamt of her but NEVER sexually. I only have crushes on guys and cannot picture myself with any girl. I never thought of any girl sexually either. I am not aroused by seeing them naked in magazines at all.
So what do you think? Am I a lesbian or bisexual? WHAT DOES MY HOROSCOPE OR CHART SUGGEST?
Scorpio
India
Dear Scorpio,
I don’t think you could be asking a better question. No, I don’t think you are a lesbian! I also do not think you are not a lesbian. I think what you are is super, super, SUPER sexual and there are no lines. Here’s the astrology:
You are a double Scorpio. Your Sun and Ascendant are in Scorpio, but you also have Venus, Mercury and Pluto in Scorpio and all of it in the 12th house! You also have an 8th house Moon (more Scorpio) but never mind that!
Anyone with this much Scorpio is going to be enormously interested in sex, period! To someone like you, everyone and everything is potentially sexy. Anything that stands upright is a phallic symbol, yes? You are going to see and feel sex everywhere you look because this is your nature. Sex and I mean, any and all sex is instinctual to you. It is inherent to you, as is an interest in anything that is taboo and forbidden.
And when you consider the 12th house, this is where the dreams and fantasies come in. So I am here to tell you: no, you are not a lesbian. I can’t imagine you would ever narrow yourself like that, can you? So don’t worry about it. What you are doing is living and the things you are exploring are completely normal for someone like you. And you don’t know where this is leading.
For example, you are 20 years old. You may wind up a renowned sex therapist! We don’t know. And if that is the case, then this experience is part of your research. So please just carry on. You are doing nothing wrong and although you may be afraid I’m sure you are on the right path. We are what we are and this includes you!
Good luck.
Hi elsa! I am the one who asked u this query…what do u mean by “I also do not think you are not a lesbian” ?? its kinda confusing!
I meant to say that she is not a lesbian because ‘lesbian” as I define it, is a woman who has sex with other women, exclusively which is clearly not the case here.
As for “implying” anything, it’s not my style. Everything and everyone is sexual means everything and everyone is sexual.
For example, I see the sex in everything and everyone and I am not bisexual or homosexual. I am sexual! Same with this woman. This is all we know about her at this point! But the question was this: Am I a lesbian?
No. If you start to have sex with women and nothing but… then perhaps you are a lesbian. But even then I would see no need to define yourself in this way. You may just be experimenting.
Bottom line, the only person who can say you are a lesbian, is you!
Read this post also “Am I a Lesbian?”
https://elsaelsa.com/astrology/2007/01/22/19-year-old-asks-am-i-a-lesbian-venus-conjunct-neptune/
Do u think she is bisexual? what do you imply by saying, “To someone like you, everyone and everything is potentially sexy” Does it mean bisexuality??
Holy cow, Scorpio!
The two first replies are a little confused, no? I don’t believe in ‘bisexual’ or ‘lesbian’ or etc… they are meaningless terms, ESPECIALLY when you factor in a double-Scorpio in the Heavens!
I read somewhere about some scientific studies of normal, average, everyday straight people, both men and women, and their response to porn. Women, in general, were roughly equally aroused by straight, gay and lesbian porn. (Men, in general were equally aroused by straight and lesbian porn, but not gay porn as much.) So, I’d say that what you are is NORMAL. 🙂
Thanks elsa for answering my question! you say sex is instinctual to me…does that mean I am a real sexual person or ‘sex’ here means male or female as in gender? sorry I am a bit confused. What does a double scorpio mean? I dont know much abt astrology n stuff…the comment above just goes over my head!!lol…pls explain it to me. thanks in advance!
what does that mean for us quintuple scorpios? 😉
I read the same story, Catnmus.
I’m with Elsa — don’t worry about the labels right now. Don’t be afraid to explore and find out about what you really want. That’s how we come to know ourselves.
why would you want to label yourself?
what does the alphabet m stands for in scorpio i see a lot of scorpio pictures with the alphabet m. can i know the answer?
Reham, the ‘m’ has a tail (like a scorpion). It is a very old symbol. Not much to do with the letter ‘m’. Scorpio, ‘double scorpio’ refers to your sun sign couple with either your moon sign or your ascendant (a triple scorpio would be a person with sun, moon, and ascendant in scorpio at time of birth, and holy crap, that’s a lot of scorpio).
If your like Bee and are a quintuple scorpio, well your order with the universe is pretty full. Hang on for the ride!
yea well im a triple scorpio on the cusp of a libra,,if im not mistaken libra was the claw.
hi im a scorpio one of my best friends is one too
and is weird caus i feel like this is strange cause we dont know how we feel
anyway this helped me a lot thank you
I am a male and have Scorpio in three signs – Sun, Mercury, and Neptune, I am 39 and JUST beginning to not be so oriented to sex and sensuality! Whew – it was a hell of a ride in my twenties and most of my thirties too. Now, I’m completely comfortable with my sexuality, which I consider mostly straight but definately up for experimentation. I usually conform to my partner’s boundaries, but if I were dating a bi-sexual woman, I would stretch her boundaries in all directions! (P.S. – Anyone out there…)? ; )
Dave
Hi I’m a scorpio (3x) too and I’m 22 and I can not stop watching porn. I’ve thought about having sex with my best friend. It’s crazy. I was at my friends wedding and they were both virgins and I couldn’t stop thinking about their first time. I love romance novels.. man I’ve always been like this….ahhh I’m saving myself and it’s so crazy because sometimes I don’t want to but then the other times I know I would be disappointed so I’m between a rock and a hard place.
My husband has Sun, Moon, Mercury, Neptune and North Node in Mercury – sexual addiction, anyone? I’m pretty new to astrology and completely loving this site, Elsa.
How retarded. I meant to say “my husband has Sun, Moon, Mercury, Neptune and North Node in Scorpio” – what a goon I am.