I Have Trouble Making Friends With Other Women


Hi Elsa,

A little over a year ago, my best friend and I “broke up”. It was a long time coming, as we have very different personalities, interests, and values. We met at work but only really hung out together because of a mutual friend. When that woman left for another job, that left me and her.

What I’ve learned from all of this is that I don’t get along very well with other women. I don’t really have any other women friends, just acquaintances that I sometimes go to lunch with. The real problem with all of this came to light when I got married recently. There was no one to shop with me (other than my poor fiancÆ’

Dear Fickle,

Congratulations on defining your problem, plenty of people never manage. You can absolutely learn to relate better to women and with Saturn in aspect to your natal Venus, Moon square, “learn” is the right word. Venus and the Moon relate to women and relationships and your chart shows definite challenges here. To solve them will take some humbling.

With Pluto and Uranus conjunct your Sun in Virgo, you are a very powerful force. It’s not the problem per se. The problem is specific to your ego. It’s huge! With Venus in Leo, your ego is as big as a room and I am afraid you may be a little overboard in believing yourself queen. Because guess what? You are not the only woman who wants to be queen.

If you think about this you can see how you would not have as much trouble with men. It’s because you do not compete with them. They are King to your Queen, so all good! And this is where your answer lies.

If you can learn to humble yourself… to discipline your ego so you can see the Queen in other women, you will be well on your way to forming the long-lasting, supportive relationships with other women you crave.

Good luck.

pictured – Portrait of Queen Victoria, 1859, Franz Winterhalter


6 thoughts on “I Have Trouble Making Friends With Other Women”

  1. Well, OUCH!! :p

    While hearing that my ego is as big as a room isn’t pleasant, I do appreciate your straight and to the point explanation! At least now I have an idea about what I am doing wrong and how to stop doing that! Thank you, Elsa, for taking the time to look at my chart and explain what I can do to make changes. *hugs*

  2. Fickle – I was hoping you’d laugh at that, though I knew I was taking a chance. You might also say, “it takes one to know one”. πŸ˜‰

  3. Hahaha! I may have a BIG ego and I do have a lot to learn yet. But I have learned to laugh at myself, at least. πŸ™‚

  4. i know why elsa can do this (besides being a fairy): she delivers her truth punch wrapped up with love which eliminates most of the sting. no hidden agendas–just a heartfelt desire to be of service.

    this is what makes it work (and this is one of the reasons why we love you, elsa.) πŸ™‚

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