Dear Elsa,
I was seeing a guy who I thought ‘was the one’ for about 3 months when he said he wasn’t ready for commitment and we broke up. Three months later, he rang me saying he had thought about nothing else but me and wanted to spend his life with someone and he wanted it to be me. I’m very good friends with his best mate and know for sure that my friend would not have let my ex contact me unless he was serious.
We have been seeing each other for about 4 weeks now. I made it clear when we got back together what I wanted from the relationship and what I expected from him… but I’m beginning to see the same sort of behavior signs that I saw last time. I’m not overbearing. In fact we see each other about once or twice each week and I’m making a real effort not to contact him.
Am I being paranoid or is he having a change of heart? He is an Aquarius. I just don’t want to be heartbroken again.
Stellium in Libra
Dear Libra,
I am going to be very candid with you. I don’t think you’ve got the right man. When you find “The One”, you will not have these kinds of questions.
“The One” will deliver a good deal of what you want and need, organically. This is as opposed to you having to outline and dictate it all. When you find “The One” you will not be training yourself, straining yourself. “The One” will not leave you struggling to not be seen as “overbearing” or any other thing.
My friend satori put it best when she told me if you have to cut off your toes to get your foot into the slipper, then you’ve got the wrong man! So I’m sorry. I know there are things you like about this guy but if you pay attention… the main thing he is doing is making you miserable. And you have a Leo Moon, you know.
So besides your stellium in Libra (relationship is everything), your Leo Moon needs a good deal of attention and two times a week just isn’t gonna cut it. So do yourself a favor. Don’t try to cajole a third day out of this guy. Makes more sense to find a man who gives you four or five or six days a week of his own volition.
Good luck.
Amen!
yup, don’t ever put yourself in the role of Ugly Stepsister. we all deserve to be the Cinderella of our own story.
“The One” will deliver a good deal of what you want and need, organically.
Wow, Elsa, I was just about to send a question about the new man in my life, but that line summed it up for me! Because he does!
You really smacked the nail on the head for this one. Sadly, we tend to sweep the bad stuff under the rug until we’re so miserable, we don’t know how we allowed ourselves to get to that point!
She sees the signs and is sacrificing her wants to keep from seeming overbearing…never a good thing.
(And I liked the last line of satori’s comment!)
Good advice Elsa…and it’s the truth as I have learned from your help in the past. 🙂