We’re having a discussion in the forum about fear and dislike. I am trying to understand my own reactions in this regard.
I mentioned that people are afraid of me; I wish they weren’t. Several people said they don’t know why anyone would be afraid of me. I decided to make a post of this…
I do scare people and I think the reason is because I don’t always follow social convention. I probably would if I knew where the lines were. For example, I moved to the South and I adapted by copying the manners of the locals which is necessary to function here, in my opinion. I mean, I do not set out to rub people the wrong way. I am not some self-centered rebel.
Now if this was not the internet, chances are I would be interacting with people who were somewhat like me? Same neighborhood? I am from Tucson, AZ. The people there are quite warm and friendly, or at least they were, back in the day. No one was afraid of me then. But the internet is huge and far reaching.
Maybe the person has never met a loud Italian.
Maybe they have never heard so much swearing in all their life.
Maybe they don’t understand how in the hell I can not be like them…
I don’t know but I do think there are a lot of reasons – A LOT.
There is also the Mars Mercury factor. It’s scares the hell out of people… this was established long ago. I do not have this problem with video because there is more presented and I am actually quite yin, in person. But I am some kind of Zorro with my words.
It’s difficult to address, because my writing comes natural to me and who knows what word or phrase is triggering? Like all Italians have to explain at one time or the other, “I’m just talking, here!”
My writing is also why people come here, even if they deny this. I think it has to do with attraction / repulsion on some level.
This is a true story – the man who edited my book was going to speak to me on the phone. He said it took him an hour to get his nerve up. I was STUNNED. This man’s website was in the top 10 of the entire internet at the time. WTF? Further, he had a phone call with the President of Viacom later that day. He wasn’t worried about that at all.
So yeah. I scare people… and when this guy told me this (almost 20 years ago), I addressed the situation. I really had to look at this… I do not want people afraid to talk to me!
So really, if I used video, it would solve this for me, but I’m just not into it at the moment. I realize I have to do things I don’t want to do but when it comes to creative output, I like allow ideas to come to me organically.
Do you scare people or do they scare you, or is it both? What’s your major malfunction? <- joke